Hello all! It has been some time since I’ve blogged. This time, the topic we are going to explore further is about happiness – intrinsic and extrinsic factors. In short, what makes you happy?
I’ve been through a roller-coaster ride at 23 years old and glad to say that this year is starting to feel much better already. Someone once told me that 23 is a difficult year to live by, with the transition of being a young adult to embracing adulthood (working life, bills, commitments so on & so forth). In fact, I totally agree with it! After that phase of life, I have a deepened sense of self and purpose – which leads me to a happier me.
So today, I’ll share some tips on how I managed to achieve that and also some ideas on how you are able to find your happiness in life.
1. Taking care of your self
Self-care is a type of respect you have for your mind, body and spirit. You need to learn how to be happy with yourself before venturing into any kind of relationship. To truly be happy, know your self-worth and the things that make you beautiful. It does not necessarily mean physical beauty, but also the inner beauty that molds your character.
Find out your strengths and weaknesses. Likes and dislikes. Your core self and learn to love who are. Think about the person you aspire to be, and also the flaws that you strive to fix and improve on. Throughout this process, you may not find happiness yet but you are getting closer to being truly happy.
For instance, sign up for a course that you are interested in. Self-improvement is a continuous process in your journey in life. Nourish your mind, fill your life with a zest of passion – everything will take place as it is meant to be.
Another way to happiness is to find your spiritual calling. It might be the best way to pick you back from being beaten and burnt if you have that faith in God. When you have no one else to turn to, having a spiritual guide to show you the path to happiness will bring you a step closer to finding your purpose in life.
2. Loving those who care for your well-being
After learning to care for yourself, you will find yourself responding to your environment more positively – with love, respect and care. It is crucial to know who is worth your time and effort as sometimes, people who are not good for you might drain out your energy instead (toxic people, basically). However, it is of utmost importance to treat everyone with respect. No matter whether it is someone from a lower social spectrum or a stranger that you happen to meet.
So how do you know if he/she is worth my time?
Here is the thing. You have a choice of choosing friends and possibly, family. You can choose whether to love them or not. Sometimes, we need to filter and pick the people who genuinely love us for who we are and slowly remove ourselves from people who only stick to us due to something we can offer them. Know the difference between real love/fake love or real friendships/fake friendships. It will save you a lot of heartbreak and sorrow if you learn to love the right people, the right way.
As for me, my family, friends and colleagues have been a constant source of inspiration in my daily life. They are the ones I live for, thus I try to show my appreciation to them everyday through my words and actions. Seeing the ones I love being happy, is my greatest happiness.
3. Working towards your passion
As you grow older, the need for financial security intensifies. The notion of having “no money” scares the majority of us. Also for the ambitious, having it all means you need to make sacrifices to get to your ultimate goal. But where do we draw the line?
Yes, to be able to get out of the rat race, you need to work hard/smart for your money. But it should run parallel with your goals and passion in life. If you have a passion for something, but your ego/ parent/ outer voice is telling you do otherwise, pick the first choice and weigh out your options. It is true that sometimes a passion project may remain a passion and we need a stable job to sustain our daily lifestyles. Many people tend to do this, and it is definitely not wrong. You can work 9-5 to earn a stable income and work on your own projects in your free time or weekends. There is no harm to that, as long as you can balance it well and also lead you to your goals.
Some people are fortunate enough to make their passion a life-long career – and that is great! To do so, you must know what you want in life and also how to achieve it. You need the drive, determination, hunger for success and also the willpower to stay through good and difficult times. It is all within the power of your choice. So choose one that makes YOU happy (not your wallet, your ego, your family members, boyfriend/girlfriend etc.)
4. Fitness Goals
This one is still a work in progress for me, but I believe 2019 is a good year for all to make life-changing diets, exercise regimen and lifestyle habits. Do you agree yea? We need to keep fit and be healthy to truly be happy with ourselves. Imagine being a person who survives on junk food and seldom exercise because they are “lazy”, do you think they will get far in life? The way you look and feel also determines your self-confidence. So take action and begin planning your fitness goals. Start changing your diet by having more greens and also less carbs. It is important to know what goes into your body because whatever goes in will affect your productivity and output! Try to eat out less and make more home-cooked meals. You will thank yourself in later years.
Besides that, find a sport that suits you. If you are a mild to moderately active person, you may start with walks or slow jogs to keep your heart pumping. In fact, sports like yoga, running, going to the gym, badminton, swimming might interest you. Those who are more adventurous and leads an active lifestyle, you may find hiking, dancing, marathon-running or martial arts to be more suitable for you.
As long as you have a health goal in mind, you will find yourself loving life a little more. Living healthily does wonders to your attitude and your mindset. So what do want to achieve here?
A winning mindset of course!
To conclude, these are my 4 rules on being a happier person in life. It might not work for everyone, but find whichever is applicable and apply it to your own life. You might just be surprised by the results!