Pursuing Happiness – Is it a Far-Fetched Goal?

Hello all! It has been some time since I’ve blogged. This time, the topic we are going to explore further is about happiness – intrinsic and extrinsic factors. In short, what makes you happy?

I’ve been through a roller-coaster ride at 23 years old and glad to say that this year is starting to feel much better already. Someone once told me that 23 is a difficult year to live by, with the transition of being a young adult to embracing adulthood (working life, bills, commitments so on & so forth). In fact, I totally agree with it! After that phase of life, I have a deepened sense of self and purpose – which leads me to a happier me.

So today, I’ll share some tips on how I managed to achieve that and also some ideas on how you are able to find your happiness in life.

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1. Taking care of your self

Self-care is a type of respect you have for your mind, body and spirit. You need to learn how to be happy with yourself before venturing into any kind of relationship. To truly be happy, know your self-worth and the things that make you beautiful. It does not necessarily mean physical beauty, but also the inner beauty that molds your character.

Find out your strengths and weaknesses. Likes and dislikes. Your core self and learn to love who are. Think about the person you aspire to be, and also the flaws that you strive to fix and improve on. Throughout this process, you may not find happiness yet but you are getting closer to being truly happy.

For instance, sign up for a course that you are interested in. Self-improvement is a continuous process in your journey in life. Nourish your mind, fill your life with a zest of passion – everything will take place as it is meant to be.

Another way to happiness is to find your spiritual calling. It might be the best way to pick you back from being beaten and burnt if you have that faith in God. When you have no one else to turn to, having a spiritual guide to show you the path to happiness will bring you a step closer to finding your purpose in life.

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2. Loving those who care for your well-being

After learning to care for yourself, you will find yourself responding to your environment more positively – with love, respect and care. It is crucial to know who is worth your time and effort as sometimes, people who are not good for you might drain out your energy instead (toxic people, basically). However, it is of utmost importance to treat everyone with respect. No matter whether it is someone from a lower social spectrum or a stranger that you happen to meet.

So how do you know if he/she is worth my time?

Here is the thing. You have a choice of choosing friends and possibly, family. You can choose whether to love them or not. Sometimes, we need to filter and pick the people who genuinely love us for who we are and slowly remove ourselves from people who only stick to us due to something we can offer them. Know the difference between real love/fake love or real friendships/fake friendships. It will save you a lot of heartbreak and sorrow if you learn to love the right people, the right way.

As for me, my family, friends and colleagues have been a constant source of inspiration in my daily life. They are the ones I live for, thus I try to show my appreciation to them everyday through my words and actions. Seeing the ones I love being happy, is my greatest happiness.

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3. Working towards your passion

As you grow older, the need for financial security intensifies. The notion of having “no money” scares the majority of us. Also for the ambitious, having it all means you need to make sacrifices to get to your ultimate goal. But where do we draw the line?

Yes, to be able to get out of the rat race, you need to work hard/smart for your money. But it should run parallel with your goals and passion in life. If you have a passion for something, but your ego/ parent/ outer voice is telling you do otherwise, pick the first choice and weigh out your options. It is true that sometimes a passion project may remain a passion and we need a stable job to sustain our daily lifestyles. Many people tend to do this, and it is definitely not wrong. You can work 9-5 to earn a stable income and work on your own projects in your free time or weekends. There is no harm to that, as long as you can balance it well and also lead you to your goals.

Some people are fortunate enough to make their passion a life-long career – and that is great! To do so, you must know what you want in life and also how to achieve it. You need the drive, determination, hunger for success and also the willpower to stay through good and difficult times. It is all within the power of your choice. So choose one that makes YOU happy (not your wallet, your ego, your family members, boyfriend/girlfriend etc.)

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4. Fitness Goals

This one is still a work in progress for me, but I believe 2019 is a good year for all to make life-changing diets, exercise regimen and lifestyle habits. Do you agree yea? We need to keep fit and be healthy to truly be happy with ourselves. Imagine being a person who survives on junk food and seldom exercise because they are “lazy”, do you think they will get far in life? The way you look and feel also determines your self-confidence. So take action and begin planning your fitness goals. Start changing your diet by having more greens and also less carbs. It is important to know what goes into your body because whatever goes in will affect your productivity and output! Try to eat out less and make more home-cooked meals. You will thank yourself in later years.

Besides that, find a sport that suits you. If you are a mild to moderately active person, you may start with walks or slow jogs to keep your heart pumping. In fact, sports like yoga, running, going to the gym, badminton, swimming might interest you. Those who are more adventurous and leads an active lifestyle, you may find hiking, dancing, marathon-running or martial arts to be more suitable for you.

As long as you have a health goal in mind, you will find yourself loving life a little more. Living healthily does wonders to your attitude and your mindset. So what do want to achieve here?

A winning mindset of course!

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To conclude, these are my 4 rules on being a happier person in life. It might not work for everyone, but find whichever is applicable and apply it to your own life. You might just be surprised by the results!

 

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How to De-stress?

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Growing up to be adults, it is not easy handling all the life challenges thrown at us. Sometimes, we need avenues to let ourselves go and not dwell on the circumstances of life. In fact, by having fun should be a priority in life, no matter the commitments or responsibilities you have to bear.

Stress can come in many ways: from the people surrounding us and the situations that keeps us on our toes. For young adults, I believe that the main sources of stress are from daily responsibilities, pressure from work, personal finances, inability to pursue your life’s passion, relationship with yourself and others, commitments and etc. Therefore, finding ways to de-stress are essential to maintain a happy, healthy and fulfilling life.

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1. Enjoying your work

When you are stuck in a job that you are not passionate about, it can take a toll on your mental health. You have only one life to live, and you are able to control your own happiness. If you believe you entrepreneurial skills, just start your own business and work on what you believe in. Essentially, you will feel happier if you have pursued your passion compared to working on a dead-end job to run in the rat race.

On the other hand, if you wish to climb up the corporate ladder, don’t let the nay-sayers tear you down. Do what you must and believe in your capabilities. Your stress levels might increase here but as long as you love what you do, the possibilities are endless. One day, you might just get the promotion you have been longing for.

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2. Relaxation

Each person have their own ways to de-stress and relax. It depends on which methods suits you and what you enjoy doing most. For some people, exercising is their go-to way of releasing stress. Playing sports such as badminton, football, joining marathons, dancing; as long as it keeps the heart pumping, you are definitely on the road to a happier and healthier life!

There are a group of people who loves socialising with friends during weekends to have a good time. Having friends who can listen to your woes and troubles, getting a drink or two while having a good laugh about it will definitely bring up your endorphins. Sometimes, good friends are able to lift up your moods and prepare you for a great week ahead.

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3. Learn to say No

Know your strengths and also your limits. If you know that there is so much work that you can bear and your superiors are still piling up work for you, just say no. You have the right to control the things you do. Don’t overwork yourself and stretch yourself thin just to impress your bosses. It is not healthy in the long run. You may set a pattern for increased workload and one day you will burn out due to this. Therefore, it is crucial to learn to turn down the things that you are not able to do within stipulated time. Ask for an extension or ask another colleague to help you. Delegation is key. As long as you have a good balance between work and personal life, you are set for a stress-free lifestyle for the years to come!

To summarise it all, you need to enjoy what you do, finding your ways to relax and also to manage your workload to de-stress from the life challenges that are bound to happen. What are your ways of de-stressing?

 

Is Bullying the Norm?

It is apparent that people with weaker personalities or of soft-spoken nature tend to be bullied by aggressive personalities. Sometimes, this kind of clashes in personality causes friction between people and may harm one’s emotional, physical and mental health.

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There are many forms of bullying, such as intimidation, threats, physical violence, verbal blanters, manipulation, guilt-tripping, sexual harassment, cyberbullying, public shaming and the list goes on. I believe that everyone has received forms of bullying in their lifetime and it does shape an individual’s perspective of life and also their environments.

It is great if these tactical bullying does not bother you, however, I believe that the thought does linger in your mind. For example, is XXX right about me? Am I really such a person?

Thoughts like this does damage your self-esteem and self-worth. In fact, I believe that people who have been victims of severe bullying tend to become bullies themselves. It is a vicious cycle that will never end.

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So where does bullying take place? Well, it can happen literally anywhere. From schools, social circles, workplace, family, religious groups, on the road, events and so on.

Therefore, I would like to share some insights on the methods to deal with bullies and their tricks.

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Firstly, learn to say no. SAY NO to bullshit and unreasonable demands. Do not tolerate bad behaviour, unwelcomed criticisms, shoutings, slamming of objects and non-verbal intimidations. You have the right to lead your life with dignity and respect. No one deserves to be disrespected; unless respect is not earned.

Bullies seem to feel good after making another feel small. Why is that so? If anyone has any idea on this, please do enlighten me. Does it feel great to make another feel worthless? Are you that shallow of a person to feel masculine after emasculating another? Just to put this thought out there.

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Next, put your foot down and lay the ground rules. In fact, communication is key in some stituations. Know your limits and also your tolerance level. If there is so much that you can take, do stand up for yourself. Speak up towards the bully and make your stand clear. Do not show any signs of fear (even if you are shaking internally), just look them in the eye and make sure they understand clearly that you do not tolerate disrespect.

In cases where you think that the bullying is getting out of hand, it is advisable to seek for help from a senior or a trusted person. If you believe that the bully has no ends to their insults and intimidation, it is a good idea to look for back-up.

From my personal experience, I’ve witness bullying taking place in front of my eyes. It was a verbal intimidation between a salaryman and a computer technician. The  salaryman was shouting at the technician as the technician was not in the position to solve his PC problems. The verbal slurs throwed at the computer technician was so rude and belittling, I couldn’t even believe my ears! In the end, this guy brought his supervisor over to talk sense to the salaryman. The supervisor gave it back to him and told him off. Justice was served and I found it fascinating when the salaryman had to apologise in the end. But bear in mind, this is only a short-term solution before the person goes back to their original ways.

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This leads me to my next point, stay away from them. Bullies are detrimental to a person’s self-esteem. Stay as far away as possible, if you can. The pattern will continue to unfold if you allow them a 24/7 access pass to your life. I believe that a person’s personality do not change that much, well at least their basic characteristics still remains. So do not trust a wolf in a sheep’s clothing. Do what is best for you and mix with people who are worthy of your time. This applies for workplace situations too. If you find yourself in a difficult situation, try to stick it out first. But as I’ve mentioned, know your tolerance level, know when enough is enough.

To sum it up, these are the basic steps to deal with bullies and to overcome your fear of them. There are plenty other ways to handle such situation as well, but it really depends on timing and other circumstances. What are your thoughts on dealing with bullies?

We Always Have a Choice

“Whatever comes our way, whatever battle we have raging inside of us, we always have a choice. It is our choices that makes us who we are, and we always have a choice to do what’s right ~ Let love and forgiveness reign.” – Peter Parker

I’ve rewatched Spiderman 3 yesterday and this quote inspired me the most. Hope it inspires you too.

Have a great day everyone!

 

Purpose and You

I’ll be writing something a little different today; something closer to my heart and my current state of mind.

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Purpose

Every person in this planet has a life path to follow or a destiny for them to carve, piece by piece. Some are meant for something greater, to make a difference in their own lives and the lives of others. And some, just co-exist or are pests to society. In short, we as human beings need to have a purpose in life. With this purpose in life, it gives people the need for action, the drive to suceed and the wanting to create something that impacts people. But not everyone has the privilege of knowing what their ‘purpose’ in life actually is. And does it matter, really?

In fact, this lack of purpose is the one thing that leads to depression, sadness, lost of hope; all of these negative thoughts – the will to continue living.

From my personal experience, I have been trying to find my purpose in life since my adolescent years. All the ‘whys and hows’ start to pop up. ‘Why am I here on Earth? What am I meant to be? Where do I see myself in 10 years time? How do I get there?’

At times, these are the questions that challenge me to step out of my comfort zone to try something different. Something that will eventually lead me to my ‘purpose’ in life. However, after years of trying to figure my life out and hopefully putting everything into order, nothing really seemed to go as planned. This is when I’ve come to a realization – to live is a purpose, to question life is a purpose, to set short and long-term goals for myself, is a purpose.

There is no way to predict the future and determine my purpose in life. But I can definitely mold my present situation to determine my future; to make sure that my past self is someone that I can be proud of. So here, I’d like to share a few tips on being in the present moment that leads you to your true purpose in life.

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1. Power of choice

As human beings, we have a power of choice. From these choices that we make, it either makes us happy about that choice or regret for the rest of our lives. Sometimes it is a gamble to set on one choice and make it a decision. But it is a risk that we must take to move forward in our lives. For example, you have the power of choice to choose the friends you would like to surround yourself with. You have the power of choice to choose how you treat people and yourself. This is the point I would like to stress upon, life is a choice. You make that decision and you will have to live with it for the rest of your life. So make your power of choice a good one.

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2. Self-reflection

Nowadays people scatter their energies into different avenues – social life, family, entertainment, luxuries etc. It is hard to pause for a second to think through what life is about and where you are heading. It is advisable to take some time for self-reflection everyday in order to stay in the present moment and not let your life slip by. Close your eyes, think through all the choices you have made on the day, the week, month and even a whole year. ‘Do you feel proud of the events of your life? The choices you have made for yourself or for others? Is there something that you would like to change? Is there something that you think that you can do better in the future?’ Learn to know yourself better and do not fear the emotions boiling inside of you. It is better to know yourself inside out to fully understand your purpose in life and to be the best version of who you can be.

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3. Travel alone

Sometimes, you don’t get the necessary inspiration when you are confined to the four corners of your bedroom wall. Being stifled in your own home is a real thing. No matter how loving your family is or however beautiful your home may be, just get out and explore the world! You will never truly get to know yourself if you are not challenged by new environments, new people and new changes in your life. Travelling alone is a great way to do some soul-searching on your own. From there, you get to think about your life choices thoroughly without the influence from your family and friends. You will find the real you, trust me on this. If you are afraid of going out on this big adventure on your own, fear not! You may bring your trusted travel buddy or even travel with your group of friends. The most important thing is to understand that life is ever-changing and to know that there is more out there in the world that your eyes can physically envision. The good and the bad. Take time to immerse it all.

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4. Motivation

Motivation comes in small and large doses too. It does not happen naturally, but when it comes to you, you’ll feel it. Some people are internally motivated. They set goals for themselves to achieve within a certain period of time. It does not have be in a large scale, but something that you think challenges you to be a better person. For example, waking up at 6am every morning. Going for vocational classes to improve your skill sets. Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals or even people from different walks of life who can propel you to success. These internal motivations are able to give purpose to your life, make your day shine a little brighter and also to fuel your inner drive to attain the goals you’ve set for yourself.

As for others, it could be external motivation that gives purpose to one’s life. For example, it could be making your first $1 million by 25 years old. Getting a first-class degree from a renowned university. Driving a luxurious sports car. Having the partner of your dreams. Becoming the next Richard Branson. Owning your own empire and retiring by 50, perhaps? You name it, these are the external motivations for you. I believe most of us are the combination of both, well I definitely am. It is how we turn these motivations into actions, that is the the thing that matters most.

Therefore, I’d recommend you not to despair if you find that you lack purpose in life. Thinking really hard on which career you should choose, whether to switch jobs, knowing whether you are in the right university course or to find that right life path to follow. Know that it is all within you. All you need to remember are these 4 tips: power of choice, self-reflection, travel and motivation. That and also a bit of time on your hands. If you are currently struggling to find that purpose within you, please do not worry too much and stress yourself about it. Practise these few steps you are already on your way to leading a purposeful life!

If you have any experiences to share regarding this topic, do comment in the comment section below or send me a message.

Cutting off Toxic People from Our Lives – Do’s and Don’ts

In our lives, we meet various people from all walks of life at different times. These meetings can turn into lifelong friendships and possibly a potential romance, while others, are just like passerbys; they fade off after several chance meetings. Friendships are tricky – either you click or you don’t. Both of you might have similar interests or circle of friends, but if there isn’t a general compatibility or you don’t get along on the same wavelength, things might turn out sour as well.

I can’t offer much thought on multiple groups of friendships and the different types of people you will meet in life. But all I can say is that my friendship circle is small but tight. If you are considered my friend, you’ve earned a spot in my heart. Well, these are the ideal situations of having trustable confidantes in a friendship circle.

Despite having friends as our companions in life, making the journey more worthwhile, fun and exciting, there are times where we meet people who aren’t good for us – bad hats, I call them. Some may act as a friend in disguise, especially those who do not have your interest at heart. Some may blatantly spread rumours about you to feel good about themselves. Others just do not want to be associated with you in your presence. You get the point. In life, we need to learn to navigate around such people and the ways to deal with them appropriately. Most of the time through trial and error, maybe a straight-up confrontation or even cutting all  points of contact from them to give ourselves a peace of mind. Each individual has their own ways of dealing with toxic friends and each to their own. This will be an opinion piece so do share your thoughts if you agree or disagree with the methods stated below.

Do’s

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1. Remove them from Social Media

This depends on the severity of your disagreements and level of friendship. If this person have hurt you in any form, physically, mentally or even verbally. Do not think twice, just cut them out from your lives. In this era of tech and gadgets, it is hard to disassociate yourself from someone as you are virtually tied to your “friends” on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and other social media platforms. Eventhough you are able to gradually meet-up with them less frequently in real life, it is best to disconnect from them ‘socially’ to avoid further harm to be bestowed on you. Do note that this method does not apply to minor rifts you have with a long-time friend who has been through thick and thin with you. It is aimed towards people whom you think have the intention to harm you, belittle you or make you feel subpar to themselves.

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2. Wish them well and move on

If this person is someone that you barely know, just know that it is better to leave with clean slate and let bygones be bygones. It is not worth holding a grudge against someone whom you do not know well. However, if the person whom you are planning to cut contact from is a person from your past. Someone whom you hold so dearly to you heart, a friend you thought as more of a family member. The feelings of betrayal will sting even harder. There are a two ways to go about this, neither one wrong or right. Find closure with the said person, figure out whether this friendship is worth keeping and whether the harm done to you is forgivable or intentional. Second chances do work in certain cases. If you think that the friendship is not worth salvaging and the scar left on you is too deep to even comprehend, learn to move on. It is difficult to have someone around who keeps reminding you of the emotional and physical trauma that affected your wellbeing, what more if this person is still present in your life and possibly, continuing the pattern of toxicity.

Don’t

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1. Dwell on the “what-ifs”

“What if she was forced to do that? The things she did to me?” “What if he changes his ways?” “What if I didn’t do enough for them?” Giving them the benefit of the doubt will only spur you into a spiral of confusion. Once you try to explain a person’s behavior for the things they have done, you might just be fooling yourself. It may be hard to let go of people who played a huge part in your life, but after being hurt time and time again, know that it is time to let go. Cut away from all the negativity and potential emotional breakdowns that you may face.

As the saying goes, when a door closes, a window opens. You have many opportunities to meet new people and bring them into your life. Find those who hold the same values as you do and ones who are able to support you throughout life, not ones who tear your confidence down. Let the friendship take its own course and never rush it. Those who cherish you will love you for your quirks, personality flaws and even confront you when you are acting out. Those are the friends worth keeping, don’t settle for any less.

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2. Beat yourself about it

Know that people come and go in our lives. Some stay longer than the others. It is difficult to maintain friendships as millenials are known to have busy schedules, running from one corner of the earth to another. Learn to differentiate your close friends, good friends and also the fair-weather friends, not forgetting the friends who use you for their own benefit. You don’t have feel guilty for letting go of people who are somewhat, a parasite in your life. It is better to live off without them for the sake of your well-being, of-course. It may sound cold-blooded, in some ways insensitive to the other individual, but it is necessary to let go of toxic people to gain a peace of mind. You do not need someone gossiping about you when you aren’t around while giving you the cheek smile when both of you are in contact. It just defeats the purpose of having friends, really. I believe that the people you surround yourself with influences your character, values and lifestyle. Therefore, it is not healthy to have people who takes advantage of you, to remain in your friend group – take a deep breath and let the person go. Don’t allow toxic people to guilt-trip you into thinking that you’re the odd one for doing so.

Do you have any experiences of meeting toxic people in your lives and too scared to brush them off? Let me know in the comment section below.

 

3 Things to Remember When You are Feeling Insecure

Why am I not good enough? Why is he smarter than me? Is she prettier than me? I wish I was her.

These thought will probably run through your mind at least once in your lifetime, provided you are a person with low self-esteem. Don’t worry, know that it is not wrong to compare yourself to someone whom you admire or a person whom you think is doing greater good than you are. The thing is, what happens after?

Do you feel a rush of emotions – jealousy, hatred, insecurity?

As I lay these thoughts in your mind for a few seconds, let me explain the root of the cause and also the ways for you to tackle it.

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Insecurity usually stems from your past experiences from childhood, adolescence till adulthood, whichever stage of life you are in right now. Let’s say, if you were told that you were not good enough as a child and needed to be better, like James who scored higher in Maths in class. This causes you to think. Are my results not good enough? Must I be better than him to get the praises and the approval of my parents and teachers?

Well, definitely you can view it as a form of healthy competition. But imagine if this were brought into adulthood, we will have a generation of insecure and competitive people living among us. For example, Diana and James have been in a relationship for 5 years. Throughout their years of being together, Diana is achieving her career goals more easily compared James and is out-earning him. James, well, is still with his mediocre salary and a slow job progression. How do you think James feels if he is a person with low self-confidence?

Will he be happy for Diana, as both of them are a healthy loving couple? Or will he find solutions to increase his monthly wages? Another scenario is that he will become someone who is dependant on Diana for financial support. There are many possibilities, and it all boils down to one such behavior – insecurity (and a hint of ego speaking here).

In our current society, I believe that there are not many platforms that discuss such issues as it may be somewhat of a taboo or just an uncomfortable issue to be brought out during your dinner conversations with family and friends.

So, here I am bringing light on this topic – insecurity. Knowing that most of the younger generation (teens to young adults) face insecurities in life – with friends, with lovers and even with family. So here are 3 things to remember when the feeling of insecurity bubbles up in you:

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1. Stop comparing

Once you realise that these emotions are building up inside you, stop for a moment and reflect on your current situation. Take a deep breath and let it out. Learn to be happy for the other person. Instead of asking the ‘whys’ and ‘hows’, just say ‘you did a great job’ ‘I’m proud of you’ or ‘I admire what you did’.

Remember that life is not a competition. Everyone needs to run their own race and each individual have different values of time. Some people might have more time than the other while some has less time. You can’t compare an apple to an orange, hence knowing that you just need to be the best version of yourself will bring you to greater heights than ever before.

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2. Fill yourself with knowledge

Take some time to read in a day; 30 minutes, at least. Feeling insecure usually derives from the lack of a certain skill, trait or ability you wish to have in yourself. Therefore, you need to furnish yourself with the information your mind craves or the knowledge that motivates you to be a better you. A way to tackle insecurity is to read motivational books, newspapers, magazines or possibly online articles, blogpost, Instagram quotes or memes, perhaps. With social media at the tip of your fingers, do not tell me that such reading material are too far from reach. For starters, filter out the negative and find motivational reading materials that are able to kickstart your day on the right note. Remember to do this daily.

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3. Learn gratitude

Yes, you’ve heard it right – gratitude. With gratitude, your feeling of insecurity, jealousness and hatred will be washed away eventually. Be grateful for having an able body, the one that lets you run on rainy days, the eyes that sees the beauty of travelling and the mouth that gives you the pleasure of tasting delicious cuisine. Be grateful of the person you are becoming due to the influence of your family, friends and colleagues. Be grateful for having the wonderful people surrounding your life. Be grateful for your pets. Be grateful that you have a wise head over your shoulders with the big ambitions you have in life. What you think, is what you become. It is definitely true for me! So believe me when I say, you are enough. Don’t let people make you think you aren’t.

These are the 3 things to remember when life gets you down and you are feeling insecure as a result. If you have any other ideas or opinions of dealing with such negative emotions, please do share with me in the comment box below! Thank you for reading, till next time.

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